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Thursday, April 30, 2009

My Husband is frustrating

I am so frustrated with my husband. We seem to argue alot and there is not much I can do to please him. After our latest arguement, I thought we solved things.

But, this time the arguement caused him to sleep on the couch. What a joke? Or is it. When we were younger, we thought that would never happen. But it did.

With two children, my kids see the nice and fun side of me but it seems my husband can only see the negative in the kids. They are still young. 2 & 5.

My husband is probably typical in that he feels neglected because I spend so much energy on the kids. But he comes home and criticizes me for in some ways caring bout our kids? So here I apologize to make him happy.

But, he is so miserable, when I go home, am sure he is going to find some other reason to argue with me. This cannot be healty...

I work the night shifts so when I was leaving for work, and he was just finishing up work, our son was asking to him to read. My husband for whatever reason said, he did not want to read a book. Well that bothered me...I had to say something. So I chimed in, "Why won't you read a book?, I read to the kids all the time."

That is when he snapped, he said he was dealing with our sons bedtime and that I should never undermine his parenting. He said goodby at least as I left for work but then he emailed me that he was really pissed off and he said I had better change my attitude real quick and he was going to talk with me about my behaviour!!!

Our relationship is obviously tainted. Is this a midlife Crisis? wh would not want to spend more time with the kids? Why is my manly husband such a whiner?

But, the thing is, when he starts alking about our marriage, he just rambles on his soapbox and things I am listening. I have tuned him out for the most part. But what really makes me angrey is that I in his eyes am the one doing everything wrong.

I love him, but I know that this type of thing cannot last forever, it is too stressful.

Please comment....

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Unfortunately I do not have a solution for you. its just that as I read your article it seemed we are married to the same guy. this is typical of my husband these days and I have been trying the detachment thing sometimes it works and other times I just get fad up of all the selfishness, the arguments from money parenting and anything in between. I started a degree and try to study when he goes out which is often. I have also learnt to tune him out while he rambles on. then nicely apologize just to get it over with.

My question is the same how long can this last?