I don't know. I certainly don't think that we should take this midlife stuff so personally. There are people that go through difficult times in midlife and it can be a hugely sobering experience. In addition, it is possible that your spouse may be going through some sort of depression. Chemical imbalances are possible and it may not be a crisis, just a form of depression. Who know the size of the world market for anti-depressant drugs. It has got to be in the billions. So the real question is if your spouse is down and out and in a depression, how much offence should you take? Logically, unless you are so stubborn and mean, your spouse should be able to recognize the changes you are trying to make on their behalf. So if they can't get out of the funk, you have a few children and have always loved each other, maybe there is more to the midlife transisition. It is so complicated and there are so many layers...The real question is do you have the patience to survive the midlife/depression/transistion/confusion. Can you educate yourself enought to know that life is bloody tough for many people or all of us at one time or another. My suggestion for those experiencing a midlife crisis in their relationship or a sudden change in their spouses behavior is to educate yourself. It take time to educate yourself so this can be an opportunity for you to learn and grow along with your spouse...midlife crisis, depression or just an opportunity to grow? You decide.
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This makes sense...I am sure everyone who is the "victim" of a midlife has probably thought negative things about their spouse. You know your ex girlfriend? You have thought of her, it is natural. What about that job you did not get? How could that change your life? I agree, labelling midlife crisis is a tough one. Good luck to all.
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